If these values are important to you and your spouse, then Collaborative divorce is apt to be an option for you that will work:

1. If you want to maintain an atmosphere of respect, even when you disagree.
   

2. If you want to keep the needs of your children and their future in your minds.
   

3. If you believe your needs and those of your spouse are of equal value, and you will listen objectively.
   

4. If you can accept that working creatively and cooperatively resolves more issues in the long run.
   

5. If it's important to move beyond the frustration and pain of today to plan for the future.
   

6. If you can treat your spouse ethically.
   

7. If you choose to maintain control of the divorce process with your spouse and not delegate it to an impersonal court of law.
   

8. If you want to leave this divorce process healthier than when you entered it.